Things I want to Remember: Criticism

I use this blog for multiple purposes, one of which is to put information down that I want record of and can easily find and reference. This post is for that purpose.

Mark Dever’s 5 Points of Criticism

1. Directly, not indirectly: Don’t imply the criticism, be direct.
2. Seriously, not humorously: If something is worth correcting show respect to others by taking it seriously.
3. As if it is important, not casually: Don’t criticize on insignificant things.
4. Privately, not publicly: Honor your friend, and don’t create negative views of them in other’s eyes.
5. Out of love to them, not to express your feelings or frustrations: “honesty” is sometimes simply frustration. Focus on their need and not your frustration.
6. End with Encouragment: This one was added by another after observing how Mark Dever handles situations. Don’t lose the criticism by flattery, slip it in, flattery, but deal directly and then re-enforce your love for the one you are dealing with.